Becoming aware of my own overreactions
The topic of disgruntlement this week has mainly been gold digging women who are out for a free ride. This can be out of plain laziness, or lack of earning potential. More specifically, what is getting me this week is those women that can do nothing apart from have kids and sponge off either the state or some mug of a bloke. This situation makes me see red.
After a few seeing red incidents this week, it makes me wonder why I care. Some of it is due to my mum rinsing my dad clean when they broke up. Some of it is my reluctance to assume the modern father’s role of being the brunt of ill considered, sexist bullshit and shelling out cash whenever daughter wants something (which is always). A contributing factor is when her mum makes bad choice after bad choice, then moans to me about how skint she is.
Some of it is resentment that I can never bang out a kid, then sit around in the house all day while my partner is at work. Men don’t have that option very often. If kids can only succesfully be raised by their mums (which is far from a certainty), then what other option is there? If mum is busy tending baby and bringing in no income, somebody somewhere is paying for their lifestyle. One answer is to develop financial security before having kids, another is for mum to work from home. How about mum and dad both work part time or start their own business and share the parenting? The imbalance in wages between men and women makes this less of an option. It may be “every woman’s right to have kids”, but it also her responsibility to make sure she can afford it without leaning on the rest of us.
I’m still no closer to understanding why it makes me so angry. That’s emotions for you.
