There are lots of people around, whether it be print, TV or internet that will tell you “how to be…” something or other. Whether it is “How to be romantic” or “how to look like some idiot celebrity”, it’s everywhere. This is fucked up.

Nobody needs any advice on how to be anything. We would all be a lot happier if we stopped “trying to be” and were content with “being”. It’s one of the Buddhist precepts - contentedness. It doesn’t need some blogger or TV presenter to show you how to “be content”. All it takes is accepting that you wish you were more like someone else, then letting it go. It is that simple. Each thought can either be repressed, accepted or fixated on. Repression and fixation lead to Bad Times, so just accept that you want something, and let it go. The feeling will pass.

Just be yourself. Don’t listen to those that tell you to “be like” someone else. Behaving or dressing like them will not make you them. Behaviour is not the person. Just do what you want to do

We have a bean to cup Gaggia machine in the office, and it makes delicious coffee. I am really sensitive to things. Not a good combination, and resulted in a rollercoaster of manic depression during the day, followed by crashing and burning in the evening.

After deciding to give caffeine up as an experiment, I had a pounding headache for five days, was generally slothful and had trouble sleeping. I did my turkey, and have returned to a coffee free equilibrium. My moods are more stable, I can focus better and I don’t crash in the evenings

People often cause themselves untold amount of trouble, and then spend half their lives telling other people about said trouble. I want to get things done in my life, so I haven’t got time or energy to listen to their self inflicted woes. If people make bad choices and refuse to change things, then I have no time for them.

Weighing matters up, if I spend time listening to other people’s (boring) dramas, then I am not doing things that are important to me. Whining people will take ALL of my time if allowed to, and will only get themselves in more trouble anyway. Therefore, I will spend NO time listening to them, and get on with important and pleasurable things instead. Some authors talk about “toxic characters”, and their toxins rubbing off on people that support their attention seeking ways. Bye bye, toxic people.

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